The Best Adoptive Parent Books

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“The more that you read, the more things you will know.” Famous and true words from Dr. Seuss. Deciding to adopt, especially for the first time, is stepping into a world full of unknowns. Fortunately, you aren’t alone and what might be unknown to you might not be to others. Equipping yourself with as many resources as possible lifts some of the pressure off your shoulders. A great way to start equipping yourself against the unknown is to build up your adoption resource library. There are so many great books out there and it can be overwhelming to know which ones to start with. So, I have compiled my favorite adoption books for every hopeful adoptive family’s library.

The first book I recommend to adoptive families is In On It. This is an excellent and relatively short book about the basics of adoption. This book is easy to get through and easy to share with other family and friends. If you haven’t already started getting unsolicited advice, you will be. This book might curb some of that.

Adopted children can have trauma that can result in psychological complications in the future. This is especially true in infant adoptions, international adoptions, and foster care adoptions. Creating a home where your adopted child feels loved and cared for is likely very important to you. The Connected Child is an excellent book with tips on how to discipline, how to connect and bond with your adopted child, and what to do with specific behavioral issues to make them feel safe.

An open adoption is a scary option for many hopeful adoptive parents. I too was skeptical when I first started out in child services. Over the years, I have softened to the idea and have learned the importance of open adoption to all in the adoption process. The Open-Hearted Way to Adoption is a beautiful book that provides a kind perspective on open adoptions. Be sure to give this one a read before deciding an open adoption isn’t for you.

The last book I recommend to hopeful adopting parents is Adoption Parenting: Creating a Toolbox, Building Connections. This book is jam-packed with information. It’s a great resource to keep on your shelf and reference as needed.

Adoption is complicated but it doesn’t have to be completely unknown. The more resources you have the more equipped you will be. I hope you will check out my recommendations!  Check out my YouTube channel for more awesome content!

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Meet Steffany Aye, the heart behind Adoption & Beyond since its inception in 1998. Fueled by a deep passion for supporting both birth and adoptive parents, Steffany's journey as an adoptive parent has continued the foundation for this non-profit adoption agency.

Drawing from more than 25 years of dedicated experience, Steffany and her team are committed to crafting warm, thriving families through child-centered adoptions. Their inclusive services, free from any form of discrimination, reflect Steffany's unwavering dedication to the beautiful tapestry of adoption.

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