Concern #1: Prospective birthparents who care for their child would not think of adoption. Reality: Adoption can be the most loving and unselfish plan prospective birthparents can make for their child.
Concern #2: Birthparents will know nothing about their child’s life or the adoptive parents. Reality: Prospective birthparents may choose the level of openness they desire in their adoption plan, including: choosing the family, meeting in person, and maintaining contact throughout the child’s life.
Concern #3: Adoption is an irresponsible solution to an unplanned pregnancy. Reality: The most responsible solution to an unplanned pregnancy is one that puts the child’s best interests first.
Concern #4: Birthparents forget the children they place for adoption. Reality: Birthparents always remember and love the children they place.
Concern #5: Birthparent will have serious emotional problems if they place their child for adoption. Reality: Birthparents who place their child for adoption go through a natural grieving process, and they commonly feel a sense of peace and strength from their decision.
Concern #6: No one can love a child as much as a birthparent. Reality: The ability to give birth has no bearing on one’s capacity to love a child or to be a good parent.