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Are you a potential adoptive parent starting the road to adoption? Or maybe you just recently adopted a child? Are you feeling overwhelmed by the information and the emotions that come with this process? Then trust that you are not alone. It is very common for prospective and new adoptive parents to feel overwhelmed, stressed out, and emotionally exhausted. Tremendous change brings tremendous toll on the mind and body. And sometimes it is important to slow down and make sure that you and your spouse, and of course your child, are all doing alright.
Thankfully, there are many resources available to prospective and newly adoptive parents, from books to support groups. Below are a few suggestions that you should consider, even if the stress hasn’t reached you yet. Being prepared for what may come is always a good idea.
Local Support Groups
Talking with other people is one of the best ways to gain perspective and understanding. You may feel your experience is unique and no one can help. But support groups show that we all face similar challenges and need similar help., especially for adoptive parents. If you have questions of any kind or just want to talk with other adoptive parents, be sure and check out these local support groups.
Midwest Foster Care and Adoption Association – Resources and support for foster parents.
Foster & Adoptive Care Coalition – They offer a 24/7 hotline of free crisis intervention for pre- and post- adoptive families.
Missouri-Kansas Masala – Support group for families of children adopted from India
For an even more comprehensive list that includes Kansas City support groups as well, consider reviewing this older blog post.
Books
Books are a great way to get quick perspective and read about other’s experiences, especially if a support group is not easily reachable for you and your family. Many professionals have been gathering information over decades, so don’t shy away from looking over a few. And be sure to check with your local library branch as you may find several easily available to you.
Encouragement for the Adoption and Parenting Journey: 52 Devotions and a Journal This lovely book offers a weekly devotional with a Biblical passage and also provides commentary on how that passage relates to an adoptive parent and family.
If something a bit more humorous is what you need, then check out Nia Vardalos’ Instant Mom. This book chronicles her journey from foster parent to adoption in her usual wit.
Adoption Parenting: Creating a Toolbox, Building Connections
This comprehensive book compiles information from over 100 contributors, covering everything from the experiences of new adoptive parents to those who have been raising children for years.