The question of when a couple is going to have children is a common one, and it can be uncomfortable to answer, especially for those who are struggling with infertility or have chosen adoption as their path to parenthood. In my most recent video on the Adoption & Beyond YouTube channel, I share some responses that can be helpful for people in this situation.
When it comes to adoption, there are generally three approaches that you can take when answering questions: ignoring them, answering them truthfully, or answering them with humor.
Here are five possible responses you can use if you are asked when you’re going to have kids:
- You can say, “We would love to have kids, but it just hasn’t happened for us yet.”
- Or you can say, “When we decide to have kids, you’ll be one of the first to know.”
- If you’re religious, you can say, “Ask God because I sure don’t know.” You can apply this to any higher being.
- Another response could be, “We recently found out we’re infertile and we’re seeing a specialist. We’ll be sure to keep you posted when anything happens.”
- And lastly, you can simply say, “You ask me this question every year, can we just agree that you won’t ask and I’ll be sure to tell you when I have something to share?”
Having responses ready to go in these situations can be incredibly helpful because it can help you feel more prepared and confident when faced with these types of questions. It’s common for people to feel caught off guard or uncomfortable when they’re asked personal questions like, “When are you going to have kids?” Having a few responses prepared can help you feel more in control of the conversation and less vulnerable to prying questions.
Additionally, having boundaries around these types of questions can be a healthy way to protect your privacy and emotional well-being. Some people may not be comfortable sharing personal details about their lives with others, especially if they’re going through a difficult or sensitive situation, such as infertility or adoption. By setting boundaries around these questions, you can create a safe space for yourself and feel more in control of the conversation.
It’s important to remember that you have the right to decide what information you share with others and how much detail you provide. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your personal choices or circumstances, and it’s okay to politely decline to answer questions that you’re not comfortable with. By establishing healthy boundaries around these types of questions, you can feel more empowered and in control of your own narrative.
Don’t forget to watch my latest video https://youtu.be/afRSP1j7HuE for additional insights.
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