Nearing Placement

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Adopting a newborn can be both an exciting and terrifying process.

There can be many unknowns, but there are steps you can take to stay informed so you can feel confident going into this process. Below, I share some of the top ways you can prepare for placement when adopting a newborn, based on my most recent YouTube video.

The Hospital Experience

Preparing for the hospital experience is one of the most important things you can do in the adoption process. It can be emotional and full of unknown variables that may come up. The Archibald Project has a video that does a great job of following the 48 hours of an adoptive family and birth mother’s journey as they follow through with a placement plan. This is a great and raw resource that gives a realistic picture of what to expect during this process.

Interstate compact (ICPC)

If the child you are adopting is being born in a different state from where you reside, ICPC will affect you. You will not be able to cross state lines with your baby until you have ICPC approval. Your adoption attorney or adoption agency will help take care of the paperwork. Each state has different paperwork for this process and it is important to note that the time it takes for ICPC approval will vary. Approval can take anywhere from 2 days to 2 weeks, so be sure to make accommodations for this process. Always plan to stay for a longer time period of 2 weeks. .

Attachment and Bonding

Attachment and Bonding is especially important when adopting a newborn. There are many ways to do this, but making time for skin-to-skin contact is a great way to bond with a baby naturally.

Post Placement Reports

Make sure you check in with your home city agency or placement agency to see how many post placement reports you will need. These vary state to state and county to county, so be sure to do your research ahead of time so you can prepare for these reports.

Finalizing Your Adoption

Adoption finalization time frames vary by state. For example, in Kansas, adoption finalization can take 30-60 days while in Missouri, adoption finalization can take at least 6 months. Asking your agency or attorney for the time frame for your adoption finalization, along with the necessary paperwork needed for this process, will allow you to plan ahead and have accurate expectations for how the process may unfold.

Stay Connected with the Birth Family

As an adoptive parent, you will always be making decisions based on your child’s best interest. One of these decisions will be how you will stay connected with your child’s birth family, post placement. I have touched on this in my previous blogs, but it is important to note that this may look different for each family. Don’t be afraid to have a conversation with the birth family to discuss how you want to stay connected.

I hope you find these tips helpful as you prepare for placement. I wish you luck on your adoption process!

What did you think of this week’s All About Adoption episode? Balancing multiple adoptions can be tricky, but with the right approach and perspective, you can make it work!

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