Why does a birth mother willingly make an adoption plan and then feel sadness after placement?

  • An adoption placement is a loss for a birth mother
  • A birth mother experiences grief and loss similar to the grief and loss of a parent that has a child pass away
  • The birth mother has shared a bond with the baby for the last 9 months, whether conscious or not
  • A birth mother may really want to parent but doesn’t believe she has the resources or in the right circumstance to provide for a child at this time
  • The birth mother has a connection to the child she has nourished and sustained life for
  • The decision to place a child for adoption is an extremely difficult decision and it takes a lot of time and consideration
  • The birth mother may have no outside support or education regarding adoption prior to placement
  • Society, friends, and/or family may not provide a safe space for the birth mother to grieve
  • The majority of birth mothers that choose to place their child for adoption do so out of love and with the loss of someone we love, comes sadness


If you have any questions about the adoption process, you can easily contact us at Adoption & Beyond and we will be happy to help.